Man, what a horrible God's day it was yesterday!
Here's the skinny...
So I had this "friend" that I had started babysitting for overnights on the weekend. She started as a stranger and then we became friends. Well, I needed extra money, so I offered to babysit M-F for her. Since she didn't want to get up early and bring them to me (she lived about 20 min away) it was decided that they would stay the nights M-Th... which somehow turned into Sun-Th and sometimes Friday. Well, she would come up Wednesday nights, conveniently after her kids were asleep. She got off work at 5 and would somehow come up with excuses not to show up for a couple hours. She was only paying me $150 a week, which turned into me only getting paid every other week, but her often saying she wasn't sure if she would end up having it.
So, apparently today she somehow decided it wasn't important to ask me what time it was okay to bring the kids up. She texts me to inform me that she is on her way and has groceries. I had spent the last 2 hours trying to come up with a way for my kids' dad to see them. I tell her that we are on the road and she throws a fit. She wanted to bring the kids ASAP. I mentioned that it would be nice for David and I to get 5 minutes of alone time since we hadn't had any alone time for like 2 months! Apparently this was totally wrong of me to say because she kinda flipped. And when I asked how late she was planning to stay she said she needed to go home early and get to sleep. Seriously??
So, me being super passive with my "friends" I don't say anything, but David decides to text her and let her have it. She then sends me an angry text saying she is gonna have to figure something else out and I ask her if she means tonight or forever... this was her response:
"Forever. That's bull. I don't appreciate it... I pay you 300 dollars every two weeks and bring food up everytime I come up and everything. I'm sorry that I had something I need to do so that I have money. I didn't get the check I was supposed to get in the mail, so I have no money right now. I wasn't planning on doing ANYTHING tonight when I went home but eat and go to bed because I was planning on getting up early for work. I wasn't told anything about you wanting me to stay later for karaoke or anything, if it's not going to work, I guess I'll figure something else out. Idk what... But something."
A) The only "groceries" she brings is when she occasionally brings milk, which is mostly consumed by her 18 month old. But that is like pulling teeth because she says she knows her daughter isn't the only one to drink it.
B) I HAD mentioned going to karaoke to her several times today and yesterday.
Needless to say I don't expect to get paid Friday for last week. Needless to say I won't have enough to pay rent. UGH!
As some of you may know from following my FB, Tweets or blogs, I've been feeling really icky lately and have not wanted to be out in public in over a month. So I finally muster up the courage to go to the bar down the street because a pal does karaoke and it was his birthday. Barely get a foot in the door before the bartender loudly proclaims that David isn't technically supposed to be in the bar because he haggled about his tab over a month ago. WTFrench?? It made me feel trashy and I was mortified. I know this was total pansy of me, but I hugged the friend and his girlfriend and quickly exited out the side door before I started bawling. I don't recall ever being embarrassed like that in public, but maybe I am burying it in the darkest corners of my mind.
I don't know. I'm so sick of people who don't know how to treat other human beings... Have we all forgotten the golden rule? ARGH!!!
Ah. And you delete comments that oppose your version of what happened. Nice. Stay in your world then, hope it works out for you.ReplyDelete
More like I delete posts where people don't have the balls to not be "anonymous." I like my world, just don't like the people who try to F with it.ReplyDelete
Then don't leave an anonymous option on your page. I'm not someone you know anyway, just someone that was there, and I was trying to help.ReplyDelete
Blogger doesn't give me the option of not allowing anonymous posts. I appreciate you trying to help. I am willing to admit I am oversensitive, but I tend to try to show respect to everyone I speak to and it is very hurtful when people can't do the same. I have never been anything but nice and friendly to that bartender! I've said my piece and now I'm ready to let it go.ReplyDelete
Letting it go is fine, and probably the best thing, but she wasn't trying to be mean either. Nice and friendly is great, but it doesn't change the fact that she has to make up the difference on tabs that aren't paid in full. She was just doing her job, and honestly felt bad that it affected you so much.ReplyDelete
The whole thing is just hugely blown up now, and I'm letting it go too. Boycott TG if you want, that's your choice, but I honestly don't feel it needs to come to that.
Hamster, you provided a service. A very honorable service in which you went above in beyond to care for her most precious babies. You charged a very cheap price for high quality care. You were not paid for that service and that is something that she should be more than embarassed about. When she goes and gets her hair cut does she tell the stylist 'I'll pay you next week"? No! The stylist provided a service and will be paid IMMEDIATLY after the service is provided. Childcare workers are NO different in deserving that respect. And yet, I hear this problem happens all the time to hard working woman like yourself. Its a shame. Having to ask to be paid is so degrading as well. PAY YOUR BABYSITTER ON TIME!!!!! I'm posting this as anonymous because I can't figure out how to get my name up. But, this is CrystalReplyDelete
Ooooh, Crystal, you are so wise in your old age. And so right, which is something I think babysitters have been dealing with since the stone age... like before the wheel was invented.ReplyDelete
PS I love you.
That person was taking advantage of you and to make it worst, she acted as if she was done wrong! She was completely at faultReplyDelete