I consider myself to be pretty independent. I don't think I ask for help much and if I do, believe me, I have to swallow quite a lot of pride to do so. I also think that people can't learn to do for themselves if they rely on others all the time.
However, I have come to realize that unasked for help can be the most appreciated! When someone does something completely unexpected to help you out, it's gotta be one of the best feelings in the world. I've often thought of how amazing it would be if I came home from work one day and the house was spotless- dusted, vacuumed, picked up, dishes done, bathroom cleaned, you name it. Because there's always SOMETHING that needs to be done. I look at my tub and think, "crud, I need to clean that." I see dishes start to pile up and think, "crud, I need to do those." Messes that have to be picked up, leaves needing raked, yard needing mowed... oh, how the list goes on and on.
Well, don't get me wrong, my SO David is one of the most helpful guys I've met. Yes, he does dishes, he'll clean, etc., but usually I watch him do it, so that's not quite as exciting as coming home to it. And if I asked him to do something, he'd do it!
Getting to my point: in my years of living on my own (and being with my ex-husband) whenever something needed fixed, I usually tried to do it myself if I could. Now, I wouldn't even attempt to do massive plumbing or fix major car troubles. But if I can google how to do something and it doesn't seem like rocket science, I'll try. I've changed flat tires, spark plugs in the lawnmower, fixed toilets, leaky faucets and replaced a couple car batteries.
But yesterday was a first for me and I can't tell you how good it felt to have someone else do something for me because they wanted to. My car has been having problems starting and the theory was that it needed a new battery. I got stranded at work on Monday and my car was parked there a couple days. So yesterday, David (with the help of his dad) went to the town where it was parked and replaced it with a new one! I didn't have to go along, I didn't have to do anything! A couple hours later, sweetness, my car was parked in the garage, good as new!
The feeling of knowing something like that got done without me having to lift a finger was equivalent to a week of people cooking dinner for me (not that I know what that feels like since moving out of my parents house, lol)! I am so appreciative for that "small" thing that I did not have to participate in whatsoever.
And it's the little things like that that truly show how a little helping hand goes a long way.