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Friday, May 19, 2023

Is cereal for dinner okay? I have to make dinner AGAIN??

 You know how every day around a certain time, this thing rolls around where everyone in your house expects to be fed?  They've already had a snack after school (or if it's summer, they've been eating every hour since they woke up) and now they are hovering, wanting to ask, but knowing they are not supposed to ask,

"What's for dinner?"


Ugh, it's that time again.  Why does this have to happen every. single. day?  As a stereotypical American mom, it's been ingrained in my mind that I'm supposed to make my family a meal every day.  Now, that's not exactly how I was raised, however.  My dad was the mealmaker, but there was still a meal- and boy, was it a meal!  My dad always had a meat, potato and vegetable every night.  Sure, we occasionally had pasta or on the rare occasion pizza, but we were pretty well-fed and my dad was an amazing cook.  We even lived out in the country and grew our own vegetables.  But my dad worked full-time and prepared a meal every night- and he seemed to enjoy it.

I sure as $hit did not inherit that gene.  I would say that I'm a decent cook, but in no way do I enjoy cooking.   And I've unfortunately raised some picky eaters.  I don't make a separate meal for everyone, if they don't like something, they just eat more of the thing they do like.  But in the last year or so, my husband has taken over the dinner making, and unfortunately his repertoire is extremely limited.  He's a bit of a grilled cheese, ramen noodle and frozen food kind of guy.  In fact, he knows how to use our air fryer WAY better than I do.

So here is my personal conundrum.  What is considered a "quality" meal?  I once met a fellow baseball mom in Little League that had like seven kids and they seemed really great and she homeschooled them through high school.  I asked her what she did for dinner when they were so busy and she said they had a lot of frozen pizza.  I was shocked and it made me realize that maybe it was okay to feed my kids frozen pizza on a regular basis.  But I keep coming back to this question about cereal.  Shouldn't cereal be an okay replacement for dinner sometimes?

My husband doesn't think so, but I beg to differ.  They load cereal up with vitamins these days it seems like, so as long as I'm not just feeding them pure sugar flakes, wouldn't it be a better choice than ramen noodles?  I was doing some research and according to the Food Network, "Many cereals deliver whole grain, fiber, vitamins, and minerals all in one bowl..." (2022).  Even the cereals that have marshmallows or frosting have found a way to hide some sort of nutrients in them.  Plus if you add milk, whether it is dairy, almond, soy, etc., you're getting that added nutrition there as well.

What do you think?  In a country where many others see us as eating to excess and meat, potato and vegetable might be out of the question for some, am I wrong to think eating cereal for dinner is okay?  What are some other options you might have for a parent that struggles with ideas every day?  I also have a daughter that's vegetarian, but dislikes most vegetables and many fruits, so that's always fun.  Perhaps my third husband will be a personal chef. 😆

Sunday, April 4, 2021

Untold Stories of the Bible: The Easter Bunny

Every year since I've been a parent, I've asked myself, "what does the Easter Bunny have to do with Jesus?"  Here's what I know about Easter.  It's a very very dumbed down interpretation, so don't come at me with the actual verses because I'm not 100% accurate.  Jesus was crucified and his body was placed in a cave.  Three days after that his body rose to Heaven.

So where does the Easter Bunny come into play?  Why have we somehow decided a rabbit, candy, and eggs correlate to this very un-Disney-like scripture?  Upon some surface level research, I only found some general correlations to the idea of rabbits and eggs representing new life, but frankly my dear, that's pretty lame.

Therefore, I have come up with my own story of why the Easter Bunny is a representation of one of the Holiest of Holidays (see what I did there, etymologists).  I'm not presenting this so that you can present it to your children as if it's a fact.  You shouldn't tell such ridiculous stories to your children.  You should share this story with your friends... and social media... like I am.  Mark your calendars that I'm copyrighting this story as of today, April 4, 2021.

"Jesus and the Empowered Bunny"

Three days post-crucifixion, Jesus arose from the dead.  He was ready to climb the Stairway to Heaven, but found himself barricaded in a cave.  The cave was blocked by a giant boulder.  Worn out from his days of being nailed to the cross, Jesus looked around the cave for help.  The only other living being was a rabbit.  Apparently when Jesus' body was placed in the cave, the rabbit had darted in and been trapped.  Jesus looked the rabbit in the eyes and the rabbit showed no fear.  He came over and sat at Jesus' wrapped feet.  Jesus explained the situation to the rabbit and that for them both to be free they needed to move the boulder.  Jesus held the bunny's paw and together they prayed for strength.  Suddenly, the rabbit stood on its two hind legs and drop kicked the boulder right out of the cave.  They were both free!  Jesus and the bunny hugged it out.  Jesus told the Bunny he would be rewarded in Heaven upon his death.  As a reward for his bravery, all rabbits from then on would not have rancid gross poops, they would have small round brown poops... that over the years have been misconstrued as ovals, then eggs, brown eggs... chocolate eggs... candy... eggs...

There you have it.

You're welcome.

Monday, May 25, 2020

The Plight of the Adjunct


I love my job.  I LOVE my job.  I'm an adjunct instructor for two different schools.  I also have a third job of substitute teaching.  I have three jobs because being an adjunct instructor means that you are only allowed to teach 2-3 classes per semester.  Full-time faculty teaches 5 classes per semester (4 for grad professors.)


I would love to teach full-time at either of the schools I work for- moreso the community college in my current city.  However, as any employed adjunct would tell you, getting a full-time gig is almost as likely as winning the lottery or getting struck by lightning.  In 2011, I got my first adjunct job at a very small community college and the dean that hired me specifically told me that the job didn't pay well and I wasn't likely to get full-time.

Why is full-time such an out-of-reach option: because the schools don't want to pay benefits.  Most states have laws about teaching and even specifically at the post-secondary level.  Adjuncts are not allowed to teach more than 5 classes in an academic year and that can only be 2 fall, 3 spring, or 3 fall and 2 spring.  (Summer doesn't count for some reason, but those classes are always snagged by full-timers.)  If the school wants an adjunct to work more than that, they have to hire them full-time... and pay benefits.  So if you understand economics, it is more lucrative to have 80 adjuncts and 5 full-time than 20 full-time.  And those numbers are pretty accurate.  At the college I work for, full-time openings only happen when someone retires.  No one gets fired, no matter how much students complain or how poor their performance is.  When that person retires, an internal transfer notice is posted.  If no one takes it, the opening goes public.  That's when the school gets inundated with applications from all those people with PhDs and Masters in subjects other than business.  People whose "fall back" option is to teach because the jobs they want don't exist. 

I have worked with my current community college for five years.  In that time, there's been one opening for full-time in the subject I teach.  I applied (and nailed that application IMO) and received an email a month later saying that they had "more qualified" applicants.  Wait, what?  What makes them more qualified?  I already teach for you!  My friend, a fellow adjunct with the same plights, made this analogy:  telling you that you're good enough to teach for them, just not full-time is like telling someone they're good enough to sleep with, but not marry.  It stings just the same!  Both scenarios equate us to cows giving away our milk for free.

Another friend of mine went to City College in San Francisco.  She said that one of her favorite professors was an adjunct.  The professor had a PhD that was bankrolled by NASA.  She couldn't get hired on full-time and because she needed benefits, she eventually had to leave the school and find work elsewhere.  How is THAT woman not qualified enough for full-time??  It seems like she'd be someone that the school could highlight as a selling point.  I ain't got no fancy NASA edumacation, but I have great rapport with students, love what I do, have enthusiasm in the subjects I teach, and get like 99% positive feedback from students (you can't please everyone all the time)!  I actually went to school with the intention of being a community college instructor!  It's not a fall back career. 

Now I want to address the "plight" aspect of being an adjunct.  Based solely on being an adjunct for one school, a single person qualifies for government assistance.   In order to make a living, we have to teach at multiple schools at the same time or have another part-time job or two on the side.  There have been a couple excellent articles written about this same topic for decades.  One such was written in the NY Times in 2007.  I'd like to quote a response/opinion that someone wrote in for this article.  She said:
"In my experience, teaching college in New York City, 70 to 80 percent of professors teach on an adjunct basis — with no health care, retirement benefits or job security. I have taught six courses at three colleges in one semester. I have been scheduled to teach courses that were taken from me the night before a class was to begin, because a tenured faculty member’s class failed to fill. I have developed courses, only to see a tenured person teach my course" (Goldin 2007).
I absolutely feel her pain.  I have had classes taken away from me a week before the semester starts.  Last year I was offered my first summer class.  I have four kids, so had made arrangements for the younger two for those 8 weeks.  It was a lot of stress, but I wanted the income and to show my flexibility.  The WEEK before class started, they gave it to a full-time instructor because her class didn't meet minimum enrollment.  This has happened to me about four times in the past five years, but this was particularly frustrating because I had made childcare arrangements and was counting on the income during the summer months.

Lastly, I would like to mention something that I'm sure is less common amongst adjuncts and is very personal in nature (thankfully this blog is hip hop anonymous).  Two years ago I was sexually harassed by a student in one of my classes.  There were only three weeks left of the semester.  Without getting into details, he sent me a series of text messages over two days that made me extremely uncomfortable and were highly inappropriate.  I only shared these with my husband and a fellow adjunct (mentioned above).  They both thought I should turn the student in to SOMEONE.  I knew that it was completely unacceptable student conduct and that he deserved some type of consequence... but then reality sunk in.  I'm just an adjunct.  I'm replaceable by anyone with a pulse and the right diploma.  I don't even know my boss.  No one there has any personal connection to me.  What if the student is always right?  His tuition is probably worth more to them than someone that can be easily replaced by 100 other people.  So I didn't tell anyone.  I made it clear he wasn't allowed to speak to me about anything other than classwork.  I avoided being near him.  Since that class ended, I never stay in the classroom if there is only one person left.  I have seen that student in the hall once since and I jumped into the nearest bathroom and froze.  Thankfully, since most students are only there for two years, he won't be there this fall.  I shouldn't have to have "let it slide."  I shouldn't have to feel like I'm the bad person in this scenario... but that's how I feel.  As an adjunct, NO ONE CARES.

I LOVE my job.  I deserve to be treated better, but because I love my job, I have to suck it up and continue on the same path.  I am more fortunate than many of my coworkers because I'm married to someone that can put me on his health insurance- otherwise, I would have to give up on a job I love or spend half my income on my monthly doctor visits and prescriptions.  I am also fortunate that my kids are now old enough not to need childcare because they are all in school all day.  So who picks up the slack for adjuncts that want to teach for a living?  If you're single, the government can/will pick up the slack.  If you're not, hopefully you're lucky enough that your significant other can throw you a bone.  But hey, maybe one day I'll win the lottery and being a lowly adjunct won't be so hard.

If you'd like to read more on this topic, I've got two articles to share that are fantastic!
‘It keeps you nice and disposable’: The plight of adjunct professors
Decline of the Tenure Track Raises Concerns