Thursday, April 30, 2009
Don't You Hate Being Wrong?
I will admit when I'm wrong. And I'm not one of those people who is above it. But, if I don't feel like I'm wrong, I'm not gonna make an apology for it or try to make you think that you're right.
The worst feeling in the world is feeling like a fool. You get this numbness all over that makes you want to crawl in a hole and and bury your face in the layers of muck and mud, never to have to face the world again- especially not the person that made you feel so foolish!
And why as humans do we hate being wrong so much? It's not like we think we're perfect and not susceptible to failure and flaws. Why are the words, "I was wrong" so hard to spit out.
Whether we feel foolish for a choice we made, something we said, a relationship gone wrong or a slight error, being wrong has that little nibble of shame that can turn into a flesh eating disease.
Perhaps, with therapy, we'll one day be able to admit our errors without turning red in the face.
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Some people don't like being wrong because they don't like appearing as "less" for being so.ReplyDelete
I'm not afraid to admit being wrong. Gramps always told me it was the measure of a man to admit when he was wrong.
If you admit being wrong about one thing it forces you to reexamine all your other decisions wondering what else you might be wrong about.ReplyDelete
Some people think that they are so smart they can never ever be wrong and that moment of admitting it is too much for them to bear especially when your whole stream of consciousness comes from one of those points
Then they get angry and defensive and go on the attack to avoid ever saying the words " I was wrong."
ying- your grandpa sounds like a wise man! You should post a blog about all the wise things he said!ReplyDelete
Rob- I do agree that I think sometimes being wrong makes people angry. Likewise, I know that being embarrassed can trigger anger in people.
Admitting a wrong could, in some circles, be looked upon as a weakness. What ego-centric person wants others to think they are weak. I personally find that admitting my wrongs helps me keep my life simple and uncomplicated and it helps me to learn from my mistakes so that the next time i just might be right.ReplyDelete
You're right, it's not fun to have people see your weaknesses! Unfortunately, they aren't always easy to hide.ReplyDelete