Friday, February 3, 2012
My Son Drives me CRAZY
My son is four. He's been going through the terrible two's since he was 1. Every year the doctor says it's a phase, so hopefully this phase ends before he goes to college or he's in big trouble. Now, he's not a kid that terrorizes the neighborhood. He doesn't break things for fun, he doesn't throw my phone in the toilet, he doesn't color on walls or cut his sister's hair in his sleep. No, he's not a hellion.
Oooooh my gosh. I am sooooo not someone who likes to enable neediness. I don't like needy pets, I don't like needy friends and I sure as heck don't like needy men! So, when my daughter was born, I was over the moon when she started showing signs of independence. Now that's she's six, I'm pretty sure she's capable of getting a job and living on her own.
But not my son! Here's my issue. He's always THERE. And by there, I mean, like in my line of vision. When I'm home, he's home. When we're home, he's constantly harassing me in one way, shape or form. I feel for SAHM's, cause it is the last thing I'd wanna do! But, it seems like every 5 minutes he wants something. And when he can't think of something, he will say he wants something to eat. Now, this kid is plenty well fed, so we all know he's just coming up with an excuse to harass me. He's hungry, he's thirsty, his neck hurts, his foot hurts, his finger hurts, his hair hurts, his eye hurts, his socks hurt, he's hot, he's cold, he wants gum, he wants gum, he wants gum, he wants gum...
ALL DAY... ALLLLLLLLL DAAAAAY!!! So when I get off work, it's he and I for like 4 hours and this is what I look forward to. I'm literally to the point I don't want to come home until it's time to get my daughter from school. Oh, I forgot to mention every half hour he asks when his sister will be home. This kid needs a hobby. I can't afford to send him to daycare/preschool every day, so he only goes a couple times a week when I'm at work, but of course I'm at work, so it's not me enjoying quiet time.
Then comes night time.... this is NO EXAGGERATION: EVERY NIGHT since he was born, my son has woken up crying... NO LIE, EVERY NIGHT!!!! Of course now he doesn't have to be picked up or fed or anything like that, but he will wake up crying, lie there and cry and then either go back to sleep or wake me up for no reason. So, about 4 or 5 times a night, my door opens (which wakes me up) and I get to deal with, "I'm hot. Is it morning? Can I have breakfast in the morning? I need to go potty." Seriously?? I might as well have a newborn because I'd have to get up about the same amount of times every night.
And every year at his check up I talk to the doctor about it. He offers no advice, solutions, etc. I'm going to make an appt with his ENT to look into why he wakes up so much and perhaps there's a solution i.e. tonsils/adnoid removal.
I love my kids to pieces, but some days, I seriously wish I had someone I could call and just say, "hey, will you take this kid for the day, week, month, cause seriously- I'm about to go bat $hit crazy over here!"
Anyone else feel this way or am I just a horrible monster?