I apologize for yet another post about friendship. This is just something that is really getting under my skin and I have to vent to someone, anyone... which leaves the one or two people who may read this.
I consider myself to be a good friend. If you are in need, I will give you anything I can to help. I try to be there whenever someone asks, and unless I can't afford the gas to get there, I drop everything to be there. I know there are a couple instances I may have borrowed things and not returned them, but I am either still intending to (money) or we stopped being friends and I stopped caring about returning something and ended up passing it along to someone else.
There have been times when I had $20 to my name and spent it buying a friend groceries. I've helped people move, I've FOUND people places to move! I've given countless hours of requested advice and kept my mouth shut at times I knew it wasn't my place to say anything. I've taken a friend's word only to be stabbed in the back, I've trusted people that shouldn't be trusted...
And yet again, I reiterate that I know that I'm not perfect.
But what bothers me is this: I have a couple friends who have been my friends for years. I can't get them to answer my texts... I can't get them to respond to me on Facebook unless I post something on their wall. I don't know why, that's just how it is. I have people that used to be my friends, but now won't even be my friend on Facebook for something that I can't even remember that I did to upset them. I know I shouldn't care because they are obviously not real friends, but I do care. You know those people that you call when you are super upset about something and need a shoulder to cry on? I don't have one of those. I wish so badly that I did, but I don't. I have people that call me and rant or cry for hours and I listen. *sigh* I just feel like everyone should have SOMEONE they can turn to for comfort, joy, a laugh, a girls' night out, whatever it may be...
So I don't know if this is a shame on me for whatever I may have done wrong, a shame on me for giving second, third, fiftieth chances and holding out hope that my friends are better than they actually are... or is it actually a shame on them... for being crappy friends?
A true friend also is willing to communicate why they are distant and be willing to work out whatever issues. That is very cruel if they are giving you the cold shoulder. *hugs* I'm sorryReplyDelete
Oh my gosh, I know! Why is it that women can talk to everyone else about their problems with someone, but can't talk directly to that person?ReplyDelete