This is me at my wit's end...
And this is a mixture of just throwing his head back and wailing and the occasional real tears. But if you distract him, two seconds later he will be laughing and smiling.
So what's a mom to do? (Other than get a Xanax prescription.) I've scoured the interweb for ideas and solutions with no success. I've tried ignoring it and going on with life as usual. I've tried sending him to his room every time and telling him he can't come out until he's done crying. I've tried timeout. The one thing I haven't done is give in and give him what he's crying about.
An example: I am cleaning the living room and he comes up and tells me he wants candy. Now, my kids get candy maybe once a week, so the likelihood I'm just going to give him random candy is as rare as seeing an albino rhinoceros in Central Park. So I will simply say, "no, you're not getting candy" and bam!- the crying starts. There's occasionally throwing himself on the floor crying, hitting things, throwing things, full blown tantrums.
When will it end? What can I do? It's been going on for at least three months and since I am the one around him 98% of the time, I know it's not because someone else in his life is giving into him. It embarrasses me when people come over and see him do this or when I am babysitting kids younger than him and they ask why L is crying.
Someone attempted to tell me that it's because I didn't let him cry it out as a baby. I really don't think that's the case. I didn't let my daughter cry it out and her only issue is a bad attitude.
I'm at a loss. This is one conundrum that has me pulling my hair out and banging my head on the wall. I am willing to try anything at this point short of shock therapy. Help!
Get some ear plugs LOL! Seriously, its not your fault in anyway, some kids are just like that. I know alot of people walk away and just try ignoring there cries so they finally realize you just dont care. Good luck I hope you find a solution.ReplyDelete
I know of someone who had this exact problem. Turns out the child needed some counseling to learn how to control his feelings. It's not that drastic he just needs someone to give him alternatives of expressing himself rather than just crying about it. Hope this helps!ReplyDelete
@AmandaSue Good advice! Now if I could fine a bulk quantity of earplugs for the other people who have to hear him cry...ReplyDelete
@Stephania I'm not opposed to counseling, just not sure how effective it would be on a 3 year old with a limited vocabulary. I'll keep it in mind, though, thanks!