Here I'm going to go again, making sweeping generalizations... but stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason, right?
Okay, so neither of these are new ideas, but I don't think I've vented about them yet and I wouldn't be me if I didn't complain about something! So here's my recent beef with men, but more importantly dads who live with moms.
1) New babies: when you are having your first child, it's such an exciting time filled with anticipation and thoughts of how your life is going to change. Of course everyone involved knows that it's going to be a big responsibility, but apparently most men think that responsibility ends at bedtime. Now I'm not knocking anyone per say, but I've I've had kids with oodles of guys... okay, that's not true. Either way, before the first child is born comes the statement, "oh, I'll get up with them at night. I hear every noise and whether you get up or not, I'll get up too." Not only have I heard this from two different men, but I've established from speaking to other women that this is a common lie that they hear. Maybe the intent actually was there, but regardless, it soooooooo doesn't happen.
If you take 6 weeks off work, guaranteed you will hear this more than once, "but I have to get up for work in the morning." If you stay at home after 6 weeks, expect to hear this until your child graduates from high school. If you go back to work full-time after 6 weeks, expect to hear, "but I have to get up for work earlier than you do." You'll never win this argument. They just have it ingrained in their minds that somehow you are just not as deserving of a restful night's sleep as they are. Then there's the promise of a nap when they get home, but because you have so many other things to do and it's not nighttime, that's easier said than done- plus if you hear the baby cry once, you're up. What's the solution, you ask? Well, how about if you're a dad, you get up with your kid once in awhile and let the mom sleep. No? Oh, okay then.
Now as I said, this is not every man. There are those lucky duck women who net themselves a guy who actually ENJOYS common human decency. I could be wrong (don't think I am) but I'm pretty sure my dad was the one who go up with us every night when we were babies and he and my mom worked the same hours.
2) I just thought I'd throw this one out there because it's the same vain of topics. You know how the truth always comes out when people are angry? (Not me, I speak the truth all the time cause I'm not worried about hurting people's feelings.) If you are a woman who works part-time or no-time, expect your man to say that you don't work and therefore you shouldn't expect his help around the house. Of course when he's in a good mood he will say that he knows you do a lot and you work hard... but the first time you ask him to do the dishes and he really doesn't want to... be prepared for his true feelings come out.
Have you experienced either of these things or should I hate you for having a one in a million kinda guy?
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